Spoiler alert: there is no “Christian Girl’s Guide to Dating”. Yeah…sorry to disappoint, but the only guide we need to be looking to is God, and we find our directions in the Bible. So what does the Bible say about dating? Well, with the courting vs. dating war raging in the Christian community, naturally both sides are turning to the Bible to find support for their path to marriage (or in many cases, divorce). And they’re finding very little. In the Bible, we find so many different examples of the paths couples took to marriage. Isaac and Rebekah, Ruth and Boaz, Esther and King Ahasuerus, Mary and Joseph. Unfortunately, God was not so kind as to point out the perfect couple so that we could follow their path to matrimony (probably because there aren’t any).
What the Bible does tell us is what sin is. Sin doesn’t change with the culture. There are things we should not be doing with the unmarried of the male species, whether we are dating them or courting them, regardless of the time period we live in
1. Having sex with him (Galatians 5:19, Hebrews 13:4, and many others). Sorry. No rules about kissing, hand-holding, or the infamous full-body hugs.
2. If he’s not a believer, you should probably definitely not be in a romantic relationship with him (1 Corinthians 7:12-14, 2 Corinthians 6:14-17). The purpose of dating/courting should be to find someone you want to be married to for the rest of your life, and you are not to marry an unbeliever.
3. Putting him before God (Matthew 10:37). Pretty self-explanatory.
That’s it for now. I could probably find more, but maybe I’ll save that for another day. My point is, in your relationships with men (and in your entire life, for that matter), avoid sin and seek to serve and glorify God above all else.